tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post8784230210783887659..comments2024-03-27T03:22:41.073-07:00Comments on Psych Your Mind: What not to do in your relationships: Gottman's "four horsemen of the apocalypse"Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08931064542755278772noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-64876539952989102602013-05-05T20:22:36.008-07:002013-05-05T20:22:36.008-07:00Good info- but contempt is before defensiveness. Good info- but contempt is before defensiveness. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-46788223351943750422013-03-14T11:11:26.211-07:002013-03-14T11:11:26.211-07:00My boyfriend's a stone wall. It sucks. It'...My boyfriend's a stone wall. It sucks. It's been a problem that I've discussed with him for the past 3.5 yrs only to receive little to no reaction, or he completely shuts down and says he doesn't want to talk or that there's nothing to discuss about. It's gotten to the point where I've had to vent to his own sister about it because everybody else seems to be stone walls. Fortunately, she was really understanding about it and acknowledged that he's always kept everything locked inside of him and didn't understand why he wouldn't open up. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-19289200885816241842012-12-06T10:45:28.580-08:002012-12-06T10:45:28.580-08:00I think we all use these at times. Hopefully becom...I think we all use these at times. Hopefully becoming more aware can help you break the cycle, but also remember that having negative interactions can be good for your relationship as long as you have a lot more positive interactions to balance them out!<br /><br />Thanks for reading,<br />AmieAmiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02262889319917440938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-65316329414396308812012-12-06T00:24:32.409-08:002012-12-06T00:24:32.409-08:00I experience these four negative emotions regularl...I experience these four negative emotions regularly. Both myself and my girlfriend get defensive easily. I often resort to contempt and stonewalling, usually muttering to myself instead of to her. I didn't even realise I was stonewalling her until I read this post... Very interesting read..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com