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Relationships"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Self-Control"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Sleep"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Social perception"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Social Psychology"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Well-Being"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Parenthood can Take a Toll on Relationships, But it Doesn't have to"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-OCnJdr0NjsE\/Vei-_XBVW0I\/AAAAAAAADFU\/8QmmfHml33U\/s1600\/couple_baby.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-OCnJdr0NjsE\/Vei-_XBVW0I\/AAAAAAAADFU\/8QmmfHml33U\/s200\/couple_baby.jpg\" width=\"161\"\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nI became a parent a year and a half ago, and my life changed\nforever. When I was pregnant lots of parents gave me advice (Enjoy going to the\ngrocery store by yourself while you still can! Go out on dates! Clean your\nhouse!). One even warned me that becoming a parent would “rock my world.” I\nthought I understood. I thought I was prepared for the huge change coming. And\nwhile I wasn’t unprepared, I really had no idea exactly how life-changing\nbecoming a parent would be. Now I try to explain to my friends who don’t have\nchildren what exactly getting swept into parenthood felt like, and the best I\nhave come up with is this—I had my daughter and she was more wonderful than I\ncould have imagined, and the rest of my life fell into chaos. One of those\npieces of my life was my relationship with my husband. We look at each other\nand marvel that we used to sit around on the weekend and lament that we did not\nknow what to do with ourselves. Now we would give anything to learn the secret\nto freezing time. Now we try to hold on as life rushes by. Now I tell my\nhusband we need more time and he agrees but asks, “what time?”\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/09\/parenthood-can-take-toll-on.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/6933356483037471524\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/09\/parenthood-can-take-toll-on.html#comment-form","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/6933356483037471524"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/6933356483037471524"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/09\/parenthood-can-take-toll-on.html","title":"Parenthood can Take a Toll on Relationships, But it Doesn't have to"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-OCnJdr0NjsE\/Vei-_XBVW0I\/AAAAAAAADFU\/8QmmfHml33U\/s72-c\/couple_baby.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-1403368414517121896"},"published":{"$t":"2015-03-27T15:49:00.000-07:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2015-03-27T15:50:27.996-07:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Amie"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Cognition"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Families"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Health\/Happiness"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Memory"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Social Psychology"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Well-Being"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"The Benefits of Capturing your Everyday Experiences"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Ctable cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" class=\"tr-caption-container\" style=\"float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;\"\u003E\u003Ctbody\u003E\n\u003Ctr\u003E\u003Ctd style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-gZbhPT6R61o\/VRXeCjv-VnI\/AAAAAAAADCM\/9y-TrHyRdxk\/s1600\/clothesline.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-gZbhPT6R61o\/VRXeCjv-VnI\/AAAAAAAADCM\/9y-TrHyRdxk\/s1600\/clothesline.jpg\"\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/td\u003E\u003C\/tr\u003E\n\u003Ctr\u003E\u003Ctd class=\"tr-caption\" style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Clothes_line#\/media\/File:Hallig_Hooge,_Germany,_view_from_the_Backenswarft.jpg\" target=\"_blank\"\u003ESource\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/td\u003E\u003C\/tr\u003E\n\u003C\/tbody\u003E\u003C\/table\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nWhat would you rather do right now, write down the last\nconversation you had or watch a funny video guaranteed to make you laugh? What\nabout a month from now – do you think you’d rather read about a random conversation\nyou had last month or watch another funny video? These are some of the questions\nresearchers asked in a \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.hbs.edu\/faculty\/Publication%20Files\/Rediscovery_4b6e3cec-8e00-4970-8f76-dd41614d6593.pdf\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Erecent set of studies\u003C\/a\u003E exploring our tendency to underestimate how much pleasure we get\nout of rediscovering mundane experiences. Participants in these studies consistently\nexpected that they would not be very interested in rereading a log of an\nordinary event in their everyday lives. But a couple of months down the road\nwhen the time came to reread that log, they found themselves much more interested\nand experienced more pleasure than they had expected. This was partly because\nthey had forgotten a lot more of the event than they had expected they would! In\nthe moment, we think why record our everyday experiences, we will remember them\nin the future and they aren’t that memorable anyway. Even just a month later\nthough, our memories of the event begin to dim, the details fall away, and what\nonce seemed ordinary feels a bit more extraordinary.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/03\/the-benefits-of-capturing-your-everyday.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/1403368414517121896\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/03\/the-benefits-of-capturing-your-everyday.html#comment-form","title":"1 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/1403368414517121896"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/1403368414517121896"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2015\/03\/the-benefits-of-capturing-your-everyday.html","title":"The Benefits of Capturing your Everyday Experiences"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-gZbhPT6R61o\/VRXeCjv-VnI\/AAAAAAAADCM\/9y-TrHyRdxk\/s72-c\/clothesline.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"1"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-2508999044350020208"},"published":{"$t":"2014-08-25T05:00:00.000-07:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2014-08-25T05:00:09.246-07:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Amie"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Emotion"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Health\/Happiness"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Motivation"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Personality"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Romantic Relationships"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Social Psychology"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Does Power Help or Hurt Perspective-Taking?"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cdiv style=\"clear: left; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\n\u003Cimg alt=\"\" data-mce-src=\"https:\/\/my.psychologytoday.com\/files\/imagecache\/article-inline-half\/blogs\/93089\/2014\/08\/158240-162361.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/my.psychologytoday.com\/files\/imagecache\/article-inline-half\/blogs\/93089\/2014\/08\/158240-162361.jpg\" style=\"border: 0px;\" title=\"\"\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv style=\"clear: left; float: left; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cdiv style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;\"\u003E\nFirst comes love, then comes the realization that we are navigating life’s journey with another person who may have different thoughts, feelings, and beliefs than us. How do we deal with having differing viewpoints from our romantic partners? Perspective-taking is a fundamental social skill that helps us smoothly steer through the many bumps in the road, from picking out a thoughtful anniversary gift to helping us reach a compromise on a contentious issue. When people are able to consider their partner’s point of view, both they and their partners report being more satisfied with their relationship (Long, 1990). Although this basic skill is fundamental and beneficial, not everyone is good at perspective-taking, particularly in their romantic relationships (Kenny \u0026amp; Acitelli, 2001). \u003Cem\u003E\u003Cstrong\u003ESo who is good at perspective-taking and who is lacking?\u003C\/strong\u003E \u003C\/em\u003ETo answer this question, I turned to the research on power. I was curious to find out whether feeling powerful in a romantic relationship might lead people to be better, or worse, perspective-takers.\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;\"\u003E\nPower is potent, affecting how people think, feel, and interact with others. Although thinking about powerful people might bring to mind the caricature of a power-hungry CEO, the reality is that power is not just in the workplace, it is part of all of our relationships, shaping how we interact with our parents, friends, and romantic partners. So how exactly does it shape our relationships? Or, in our case, our ability to step into our partner’s shoes? Well, the old adage, “power corrupts,” suggests that powerful people should be selfish, caring only about getting their own way and paying little attention to what their romantic partners are thinking and feeling. And there is research to support this – people are less likely to take strangers’ perspectives when they feel powerful (Galinsky et al., 2006) and in families, powerful members are less likely to perspective take (Barber, 1984). But on the other hand, for romantic relationships to survive, people can’t just be selfish—they have to think about what is best for the relationship, which means considering their partner’s point of view. Power helps people focus on and pursue their goals (Guinote, 2007), so perhaps power might actually help people become better perspective-takers in romantic relationships because it focuses them on maintaining their relationship?\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/08\/does-power-help-or-hurt-perspective.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/2508999044350020208\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/08\/does-power-help-or-hurt-perspective.html#comment-form","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/2508999044350020208"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/2508999044350020208"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/08\/does-power-help-or-hurt-perspective.html","title":"Does Power Help or Hurt Perspective-Taking?"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-EsyCCVZLdUo\/U_j3QU6HhJI\/AAAAAAAAC6g\/FEZX15CUvfs\/s72-c\/PowerPT_Study1.png","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-4910039258514701663"},"published":{"$t":"2014-03-28T07:56:00.001-07:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2014-03-28T07:56:33.537-07:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Amie"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Children"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Emotion"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Families"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Gender"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Health\/Happiness"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Research Methods"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Well-Being"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Parenthood, Trial or Tribulation? Part 2"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003EOn New Year’s Day I\nbecame a parent, sparking my curiosity in the research on parenting and\nwell-being and inspiring a four-part series on parenthood and happiness. This\nis the second post. Check out the first post \u003Cb\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation.html\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ehere\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-Ql5Ah_j9hoY\/UzWL2HSWC5I\/AAAAAAAACxI\/4aItY0pS8w0\/s1600\/tireddad.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-Ql5Ah_j9hoY\/UzWL2HSWC5I\/AAAAAAAACxI\/4aItY0pS8w0\/s1600\/tireddad.jpg\" height=\"212\" width=\"320\"\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003EAre parents happier\nthan non-parents? \u003C\/i\u003EResearchers have generally set about trying to answer\nthis deceptively simple question in three ways:\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ci\u003EAre people with children happier than those without children?\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nThis is the most common approach to research on parenthood\nand well-being. In these studies, researchers typically tackle large datasets\nwith thousands of adults, comparing the well-being of people with children to\npeople without children. Although the approach is straightforward, the results\nare mixed with some studies finding parents are happier than non-parents and other\nstudies find the reverse.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003EHow can these studies with such a basic design find opposite\nresults? \u003C\/i\u003EOne large problem with this approach is that little work is\ndone to find out who exactly is making up these groups of parents and\nnon-parents. Focusing on the non-parents, only 15% of adults do not have\nchildren, making them a small comparison group. More importantly, their reasons\nfor doing so may differ greatly. Young adults may not have children when they\ntake part in the research, but plan to have children later. Older adults may\nnot have children because they were not able to do so, or they may have\nconsciously made the choice to not have children. Imagine comparing a married 48-year\nold with three children to a married 48 year-old with no children who spent\nyears and hard earned dollars fighting infertility and wishing to be a parent?\nWho do you think is happier? Now imagine that the non-parent comparison is a 48\nyear-old who loves to travel, lives all over the globe and chose not to have\nchildren because they wouldn’t fit a globetrotting lifestyle. Who do you think\nis happier? In one study, mothers were no happier than women who chose not to\nhave children, but were significantly happier than infertile women (Callan,\n1987). Choice plays an important role on the other side of the table as well—some\npeople become parents by choice while others find themselves in the unexpected\nposition of being a parent when they hadn’t intended it. How might choice\naffect happiness among these different groups?\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ci\u003EAre people happier after they have children than they were before they\nwere parents?\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation-part-2.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/4910039258514701663\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation-part-2.html#comment-form","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/4910039258514701663"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/4910039258514701663"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation-part-2.html","title":"Parenthood, Trial or Tribulation? Part 2"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/-Ql5Ah_j9hoY\/UzWL2HSWC5I\/AAAAAAAACxI\/4aItY0pS8w0\/s72-c\/tireddad.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-3211850140167254327"},"published":{"$t":"2014-03-20T14:45:00.000-07:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2014-03-20T14:46:18.292-07:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Amie"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Children"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Families"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Health\/Happiness"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Parenting"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Research Methods"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Romantic Relationships"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Well-Being"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"Parenthood: Trial or Tribulation?"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003EThis is the first post in a\nfour-part series on parenthood and happiness. \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-8Qn7tTlMnSo\/Uytcjf5AYKI\/AAAAAAAACwM\/CRjVot9BVWg\/s1600\/DSC_0072.JPG\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-8Qn7tTlMnSo\/Uytcjf5AYKI\/AAAAAAAACwM\/CRjVot9BVWg\/s1600\/DSC_0072.JPG\" height=\"320\" width=\"212\"\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\nOn New Years Day I celebrated not only the start of a new\nyear, but a new phase in my life. A few (long) hours after midnight I became a parent, and my\nlife was irrevocably changed. In the journey to parenthood I knew one thing to be true—that I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Would becoming a\nparent bring me joy, love, and gratitude greater than I had previously known? Would\nI find myself anxious, worried, depressed, and dreaming of my former life? Or,\nas I suspected, would I find myself experiencing intense moments of both?\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nIn my short time as a parent I have experienced great joy,\nlove and gratitude as well as intense worry, and sometimes even sadness. Happily,\nas I sit here typing up this post with my two and a half month old swaddled\nnext to me on the couch, eyeing me trustingly as she falls in and out of sleep,\nI can say that the balance tends to weigh strongly on the side of joy. But in\nthose moments where I don’t have the luxury to type up this post because I’m\ntending to a crying child, or changing a dirty diaper, I dream of the freedom\nof my former life and the balance is just a bit more evenly weighted.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nAnd the one thing I know with certainty is that I still have\nno clue what exactly I’ve gotten myself into. While my days often stretch out in\nfront of me with the sameness that comes from having an infant with simple\nneeds, I also know that she is growing and changing at a rapid pace. Each week\nwe are in uncharted territory as she learns to smile, sit, and eventually walk,\ntalk and push back as she becomes her own independent person.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/3211850140167254327\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation.html#comment-form","title":"1 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/3211850140167254327"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/3211850140167254327"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/parenthood-trial-or-tribulation.html","title":"Parenthood: Trial or Tribulation?"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-8Qn7tTlMnSo\/Uytcjf5AYKI\/AAAAAAAACwM\/CRjVot9BVWg\/s72-c\/DSC_0072.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"1"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-1706475506466487971"},"published":{"$t":"2013-09-06T11:13:00.000-07:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2013-09-08T14:19:26.407-07:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Amie"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Cutting-Edge Research"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Health\/Happiness"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Romantic Relationships"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Sleep"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Social Psychology"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Well-Being"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"How is your sleep affecting your relationship?"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-LqRHifadKXk\/UiobCyVSdnI\/AAAAAAAACrA\/UKJUhfpDI-o\/s1600\/couple-fighting-in-bed.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-LqRHifadKXk\/UiobCyVSdnI\/AAAAAAAACrA\/UKJUhfpDI-o\/s1600\/couple-fighting-in-bed.jpg\"\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\nFor the first few years of college, I maintained the typical\ncollege-student sleep schedule: in bed between 2am and 3am, dragging myself up\nat 9am for my 9:30am lecture which I inevitably slept through (in the front\nrow… what was I thinking?!?). Chronically sleep-deprived, I would rather be\nspending time with my new friends and boyfriend than catching those precious\nzzz’s. Many of those nights made for wonderful memories, but other times I’d\nfind myself inexplicably upset over some small issue, picking fights with my\nboyfriend (now husband) in the wee hours of the night. “You’re tired, go to\nbed” my wise boyfriend would tell me. “No I’m not! This is a real issue!” sleepy\nme would argue back, frustrated at his disregard, not understanding why he didn’t\nget what I was feeling.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nNow that I’m older and wiser, I will publicly state that my\nhusband was right – 99% of the time I was just tired and a good night of sleep\nmade all of my problems go away. Happily, I eventually learned the benefits of\ngetting my requisite 9 hours of sleep, and rarely find myself picking fights in\nthe middle of the night. And now, 10 years later, I’m putting this anecdote to\nthe test – conducting research to answer the question of whether\u003Cb\u003E \u003C\/b\u003Ewe might, at times,\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ci\u003E find\nourselves in conflict simply because one of us is tired.\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003EPoor Sleep: A route\nto unnecessary conflict?\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nConflict is an important, inevitable, and healthy component\nof relationships. Romantic partners who are sharing their lives together are\nexpectedly going to have times of disagreement. In fact, being able to express\ndifferences of opinion and find compromise may very well be the hallmark of a\nhealthy relationship. However, conflict is not always helpful and even at its\nbest, is generally unpleasant. Minimizing unnecessary squabbles is vital for\nthe longevity of relationships. And here is where I think sleep comes in.\nPeople who are sleep deprived tend to experience more negative emotions (see \u003Cb\u003Ethis post\u003C\/b\u003E for more on sleep and mood),\nare more reactive to negative events, and are worse at problem solving. A\nrecipe for disaster – whereas someone who is well-rested might be able to\nclarify when they think they’ve been criticized, or simply shrug off a sink of\ndirty dishes, someone who is sleep-deprived is more likely to be a ticking time\nbomb, possibly reacting automatically without the capacity to stop and think it\nthrough.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nIn our research, we examined the link between sleep and\nconflict, testing three main questions:\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nAfter sleeping poorly…\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst\" style=\"margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;\"\u003E\n\u003C!--[if !supportLists]--\u003E1.\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: 7pt;\"\u003E      \n\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C!--[endif]--\u003EAre people more likely to report\nexperiencing conflict with their relationship partners?\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle\" style=\"margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;\"\u003E\n\u003C!--[if !supportLists]--\u003E2.\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: 7pt;\"\u003E      \n\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C!--[endif]--\u003EIs their conflict more severe?\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpLast\" style=\"margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;\"\u003E\n\u003C!--[if !supportLists]--\u003E3.\u003Cspan style=\"font-size: 7pt;\"\u003E      \n\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C!--[endif]--\u003EAre they less able to resolve conflict?\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpLast\" style=\"margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;\"\u003E\n\u003Cbr\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\nThe short answer is \u003Cb\u003EYes\u003C\/b\u003E.\nA bad night of sleep is associated with more frequent, severe and less resolved\nconflict between relationship partners. But read on for the longer explanation…\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2013\/09\/how-is-your-sleep-affecting-your.html#more\"\u003ERead More-\u0026gt;\u003C\/a\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/feeds\/1706475506466487971\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2013\/09\/how-is-your-sleep-affecting-your.html#comment-form","title":"15 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/1706475506466487971"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/6451967208270832502\/posts\/default\/1706475506466487971"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"http:\/\/psych-your-mind.blogspot.com\/2013\/09\/how-is-your-sleep-affecting-your.html","title":"How is your sleep affecting your relationship?"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Amie"},"uri":{"$t":"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/profile\/02262889319917440938"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-LqRHifadKXk\/UiobCyVSdnI\/AAAAAAAACrA\/UKJUhfpDI-o\/s72-c\/couple-fighting-in-bed.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"15"}}]}});