tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post1862614015006775661..comments2024-03-15T04:24:58.509-07:00Comments on Psych Your Mind: Is it the thought that counts?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08931064542755278772noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-65651462496269298412012-12-09T15:00:19.909-08:002012-12-09T15:00:19.909-08:00Oh, I’m so sorry! I can certainly imagine it would...Oh, I’m so sorry! I can certainly imagine it would be difficult to get gifts returned back to you all the time. I understand wanting to direct your thoughtful gift giving elsewhere. Thanks for reading!Kate Reilly Thorsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11255571381689720249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-58743585161443484712012-12-09T14:57:37.830-08:002012-12-09T14:57:37.830-08:00Yes, that’s a great point. Once we know what a suc...Yes, that’s a great point. Once we know what a successful gift exchange feels like, we probably want to seek out that same experience again. Sometimes it can get harder and harder to keep finding amazing gifts for the same person over the years, though! That’s where wish lists come in handy. Thanks for your comment!Kate Reilly Thorsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11255571381689720249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-81439170745117485172012-12-09T14:52:11.209-08:002012-12-09T14:52:11.209-08:00Perfect! It sounds like you have worked out the be...Perfect! It sounds like you have worked out the best situation. I agree that thank you cards can help gift exchanges foster even more social connection. Thanks for reading! Kate Reilly Thorsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11255571381689720249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-37990096700689524922012-12-08T11:44:32.530-08:002012-12-08T11:44:32.530-08:00Also please consider people's feelings when yo...Also please consider people's feelings when you return a gift. I have a family member who routinely says thank you and perhaps a compliment when she receives my gifts, which have been carefully considered and planned. Then the next time she sees me, she hands the gift back to me without a word. It feels like continual rejection. Needless to say it has damaged our relationship and created much anger and resentment. I don't give her anything any more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-6958665062708583322012-12-08T08:19:02.970-08:002012-12-08T08:19:02.970-08:00This is good to know, especially at this time of y...This is good to know, especially at this time of year- So many of us feel stress over the decision-making required of "thoughtful" gifts. It would be nice if everyone had a registry or wish list. I think a lot of people feel guilty if they simply buy from a wish list; it's nice to know we should not feel this way!<br />I think most of us have had the experience of thinking hard about a gift choice and successfully finding the perfect gift. The recipient is thrilled, we feel great, and - according to this research- we feel closer to the recipient. I think that this is what drives us to keep trying to duplicate this experience... and is what creates the stress of once again finding the perfect gift.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-40380665121950573372012-12-07T11:13:45.044-08:002012-12-07T11:13:45.044-08:00Great article! Makes me feel less stressed about &...Great article! Makes me feel less stressed about "thoughtless" giving!!<br /><br />Most of the time I am too thoughtful in my gift giving.. (which can be very time consuming!) and, as you explained, it doesn't always mean I am giving something the receiver really wants. <br /><br />I feel best as a gift giver when I get something the person wants ("thoughtless") and then I get a very thoughtful card and write a heartfelt note. That way - they get a gift they want, and I can feel closer to them!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com