tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post1420208023834478081..comments2024-03-27T03:22:41.073-07:00Comments on Psych Your Mind: Friday Fun: Birth Order and Romantic CompatibilityAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08931064542755278772noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-59266510796792070392014-02-25T07:28:47.985-08:002014-02-25T07:28:47.985-08:00http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/Perspectiv...http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/Perspectives_1/Willie_Lynch_letter_The_Making_of_a_Slave.shtmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-86294666102718365392014-01-28T09:37:23.411-08:002014-01-28T09:37:23.411-08:00what if an older male was to get a female younger ...what if an older male was to get a female younger than he was in age but who is a middle child? would the order still have to same affect or would the middle child female in the situation be like a last born?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-69028494402248993782012-03-07T22:37:43.130-08:002012-03-07T22:37:43.130-08:00Thanks for sharing your perspective! I think you m...Thanks for sharing your perspective! I think you made a great point that a lot of this may depend on family roles and expectations - in some families, siblings may be expected and encouraged to occupy distinct roles, both within the family and more specifically in relation to one another, whereas in other families roles may be more fluid.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11680528427434926352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-53429519499613344722012-03-07T22:23:00.807-08:002012-03-07T22:23:00.807-08:00Absolutely. (That's what I was referring to wh...Absolutely. (That's what I was referring to when I mentioned the influence of age differences). This comment also relates to an earlier comment about growing up in separate environments - both are very good points. Certainly in those cases, as in all cases, there are many, many other factors that shape personality aside from birth order. As for the influence of sibling dynamics, age differences of 10-20 years would likely mean that each sibling spent most of his or her childhood living without their sibling, so birth order may have a smaller effect, if any, in those cases.<br /><br />I agree with you that feeling understood by someone probably matters a lot more than birth order per se, but I wonder to what extent birth order might play a role in who we feel understood by.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11680528427434926352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-37407090193393564692012-03-07T22:13:30.235-08:002012-03-07T22:13:30.235-08:00Only children are similar to first-borns in that t...Only children are similar to first-borns in that they have no one above them (except their parents), but they're also similar to youngest siblings who have no one below them. So I could see it going either way in terms of romantic compatibility. Also see #3 ("One is not the loneliest number") for some other thoughts.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11680528427434926352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-38052185512969533262012-03-07T21:50:53.963-08:002012-03-07T21:50:53.963-08:00Great point - changes in family dynamics may also ...Great point - changes in family dynamics may also influence the way siblings relate to one another (and personality more generally), especially in cases like yours where there's a large age difference.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11680528427434926352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-52640002174923444192012-03-07T21:41:08.660-08:002012-03-07T21:41:08.660-08:00Thanks for sharing your thoughts, B! It does seem ...Thanks for sharing your thoughts, B! It does seem like you and your husband defy the typical birth order personality stereotypes, as I'm sure many people too. I wonder though if the key to compatibility, birth-order speaking, is more about role complementarity, which could be based on whatever unique roles each partner occupied in their respective sibling dynamics.Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11680528427434926352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-65218130615652494652012-03-07T15:11:28.262-08:002012-03-07T15:11:28.262-08:00I like this article. I think it's funny and re...I like this article. I think it's funny and revealing. It's obvious that the author isn't trying to challenge important factors that effect couple dynamics, but is suggesting that in some circumstances birth order may play an interesting role in how these dynamics shake out. <br /><br />The article's application to my family of five siblings is surprisingly accurate. Though my oldest brother is 10 years older than I am, and yes, we grew up under very different circumstances, the birth order roles amongst my siblings and i tend to fall pretty closely to the author's description. That is, my oldest brother is the alpha male, my middle sibling the party animal, and I, the youngest, am the weird artsy one. <br /><br />My eldest siblings have taken dominant roles in their spousal relationships, the middle child is just recently getting past the party animal phase and has been through two marriage/divorces, the second to youngest was a devoted sort who was walked on in his marriage that also ended in divorce, and I'm scarred single (but hopefully not for forever). <br /><br />Now clearly, as the author said, a lot of other factors have effected these relationships; including culture/religion, illness, and upbringing. But it's interesting how birth order does still seem relevant in our family through it all. Lastly, I think that this might be true for us because the concept of 'family' and family roles were strongly reinforced in the culture/religion of my parents. <br /><br />Thanks for the fun read. It is worth reflecting on :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-73188420986934532792012-03-07T08:29:52.194-08:002012-03-07T08:29:52.194-08:00A lot of this is true...to a point. The author als...A lot of this is true...to a point. The author also neglected to mention siblings that are 10, 15 and even 20 years apart. Then the differences become generational and cultural rather than a question of birth order. Big brother loved The Beatles and toy soldiers and baby brother is into Hootie and the Blowfish and internet cafes.<br /><br /> I read an Esquire article in which the actor Jeffrey Tambor said, "The secret to life is to surround yourself with the people who 'get' you and only the people who get you." I think this little nugget of wisdom will trump birth order any day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-20836076233315388592012-03-06T23:33:11.288-08:002012-03-06T23:33:11.288-08:00What about only children? Would they fall into the...What about only children? Would they fall into the 1st born category?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-61261305533863341002012-03-06T17:22:02.902-08:002012-03-06T17:22:02.902-08:00There are many other factors that enter in, like t...There are many other factors that enter in, like the physical and emotional condition of the family as a whole. My brother is 4 1/2 years older than me and grew up in a completely different family from mine. Our parents were upwardly mobile but deteriorated due to alcoholism and ill health. My brother had young, healthy, attentivem but relatively poor parents, while I had older, wealthier, but much less attentive parents than he. Two totally different families in one household due to time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-75013440367422748382012-03-03T21:30:12.235-08:002012-03-03T21:30:12.235-08:00Interesting thoughts, although I agree that this d...Interesting thoughts, although I agree that this describes a more general pattern as opposed to individual experiences. Personally, I am the driving youngest child and my husband is a relaxed middle child and I've found that our relationship has thrived much more than any other I've had. I definitely think that "opposites attract" is the mantra best describing our relationship, and that birth order had little to no role in that.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07977191357731470865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451967208270832502.post-39956850921484205972012-03-02T03:00:27.641-08:002012-03-02T03:00:27.641-08:00Good video clips uploaded. Thanks for this.
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